NRCDV Logo
  • Adult Children Exposed to Domestic Violence
  • Runaway & Homeless Youth Toolkit
  • Prevent Intimate Partner Violence
  • Violence Against Women Resource Library
  • Domestic Violence and Housing Technical Assistance Consortium
  • Domestic Violence Awareness Project
  • Building Comprehensive Solutions
  • National Resource Center on Domestic Violence
Escape Escape
If you are in danger, please call 911, your local hotline, or the U.S. National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. There is always a computer trail, but you can leave this site quickly by clicking on this button. See more technology safety tips here.
Supporting critical thinking, learning and victim-defined advocacy...

How can my partner’s violence be reduced or stopped?

How will I meet my family’s basic needs?How can I help my children?Will life be better if I stay or if I go? Who will help me get what I need to be safe?


I need them (men who batter) to get some counseling. I need them to get some education. I need them to understand that domestic violence is more than just what you see it as, whether it is physical or mental. It has to do with how you think about yourself, it has to do with your upbringing, it has to do with all those other root issues…you’ve got some good men that go down that domestic violence pathway because of how they were socialized.

— African American Victim From Center for Family Policy and Practice Listening Sessions, 2009

How can my partner’s violence be reduced or stopped?

Victims ask this question because it makes sense. If violence is the problem — stopping it is the solution. It is the only way to end domestic violence.

Victims want to know how. There is no easy answer. Partners who batter are different. Some assault, rape, and disrespect their partners and terrify their children. Others use less physically violent means to isolate and dominate. A few are vicious enough to kill.

Some partners who batter do reduce or stop their violence and control. Some do not.

Current interventions to reduce domestic violence are limited. Most are available through the legal system. Too many lack the services and cultural responsiveness often necessary to support a change to non-violent behavior.

This website is funded through grant # 90EV041001 from the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services, Administration for Children and Families, Family and Youth Services Bureau. Neither the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services nor any of its components operate, control, are responsible for, or necessarily endorse this website (including, without limitation, its content, technical infrastructure, and policies, and any services or tools provided).