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What will help my children be OK?

How can my partner’s violence be reduced or stopped?How will I meet my family’s basic needs?Will life be better if I stay or if I go?
Who will help me get what I need to be safe?


My children know now that we don’t have to live in fear.

— Shelter Resident, Meeting Survivors’ Needs: A Multi-State Study of Domestic Violence Shelter Experiences by NRCDV for the National Institute of Justice (October 2008)


How can my partner’s violence be reduced or stopped?

For victims raising children, the violence and control of a partner makes parenting difficult. A partner who is abusive may keep a victim from doing what she thinks is best for the child. Many victims face other harsh realities as they try to provide for their children, particularly those living in poverty. Like other parents, most victims put their children’s needs first.

Children are also victims. They may also be abused by the person battering their mother. Each child uniquely experiences the violence against her/his mother. Some children will cope and be OK; others will struggle and need more help to be OK.

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